The dictionary states that self-love is regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).
I find self-love to be an extremely interesting concept within my spiritual world. It is something we need to cultivate within our mindset and our lives, yet it can be very hard to make that commitment to ourselves. I’m going to do my best to make it really simple!
What if I said that self-love was simply letting go of the judgement we place upon ourselves?
What if self-love was getting away from that inner-critic (ego) that is always trying to protect us from, well, everything.
What if self-love was accepting yourself the way you are, and allowing yourself to take your next best steps for personal growth.
Then what if I said it was giving yourself what you needed, to the best of your ability?
I completely understand that this can be a struggle for many, but it can also be an amazing journey! I am one of those that have been slow to work on self-love, but it has been worth it.
In my experience love is the basis of everything. Love is essential for your own personal happiness, for your ability to love and have strong relationships with others, it helps to expand your consciousness, increase your energetic vibration, and connect you to your spiritual team and the angelic realm!
Here are 5 simple ways to increase self-love today ::
- Let go of your judgement and your inner-critic – You know that voice in your head that is always telling you that you aren’t good enough, you aren’t pretty enough, or strong enough, or smart enough. That one that will tell you immediately not to speak, or to dim your light, or to not voice your opinion. You know that one?
Whenever that voice comes into your mind, catch it. Pay attention to the thought. Forgive the thought. Send it light and love. Then give yourself a more positive thought. Just by shifting the words, you can let that judgement and inner-critic go.
- Commit to Self-Love – Make an internal commitment to yourself at this moment. Write it down, put it on your phone, and repeat it as often as necessary.
Often times when we set an intention, that is what helps it stay with us. You can say a prayer to your angels, or your higher self. You can commit to it on social media so your friends and family can support you! Whatever works for you!
“ I choose self-love in my life. I treat myself with complete love and acceptance. I respect my mind and my body, and I will give myself what I need”.
3. Prioritize Play and Fun – I know this may sound strange, but it is consistent angelic guidance that I receive. Stop, have fun, make memories, build relationships. Dance like no one is watching. Laugh until your stomach hurts. Watch a funny movie, create something beautiful for yourself or a friend, do anything that makes your heart sing! This is a piece of self-love that we can sometimes forget! Make a plan today!
- Let go of what no longer serves you – This one can be interesting, and I’ve definitely seen clients struggle with it, so I’ll break it down short and sweet. Your mind, body, and soul is constantly changing. We are constantly healing, shifting, changing over the days and the years. Therefore, this guidance is to pay attention to your day to day living and the habits that you have formed over the years.
Is a habit you used to do still serving you? For example, one of my clients used to drink every single night to deal with her anxiety at work. There came a point in time where she was so distressed that she was willing to deal with her anxiety head-on! She had gotten to the point where drinking was no longer helping her to resolve her issues, or relieve her pain that she had felt.
Ultimately, pay attention to your habits and revise them as needed. Instead of going back to an old habit that is not serving your growth, try something new. Go for a walk. Call a friend. Schedule a counseling session with a therapist or a coach, You’ll be glad you did, and you’ll revise it later on when you’ve shifted into a new space again! 😊
- Forgive Yourself – I know that in our lives we have all done things that didn’t serve us or others in our lives. Decisions we may have made that did not work out for the best. Things we have done to hurt relationships with others.
Forgive yourself for anything that comes up for you when you read this! Forgiving often takes time, and that’s completely okay! Every time something from the past comes up for you, remember that you were doing the best that you could in that very moment. YOU WERE DOING YOUR BEST…
Then take a moment to look at yourself in the mirror and state:
“I forgive you for _____________. I know you were doing the best that you
could. I forgive you and I love you with all of my heart.”